21 September 2016

Here Comes a Thought/ Flexibility, Love, & Trust

Steven Universe is one of the little-Little’s favorite shows. I’ve watched a few times with her and it’s some progressive, good stuff. Plus, Steven is downright entertaining.

Last week, the little-Little shared this song, Here Comes a Thought/ Flexibility, Love, & Trust with me. The song reminded her of the discussion we had about mindfulness. What’s mindfulness? Mindfulness means paying attention; being in the present moment; acknowledging and accepting, without judgement, our feelings, thoughts, and body.

   Mindfulness is playing an important role in the management of my mental illnesses. I’m practicing mindfulness when I differentiate thoughts from states of being and facts. For example (and this is a very real example), I think I have proof my mister doesn’t love me because he didn’t call me, didn’t remember something, etc. That is a thought. That thought may have elicited strong emotions of jealousy, anger, and fear. This thought is not a fact and I am aware of how I feel without judgement. The true nature of those thoughts and feelings are my fear of abandonment, a fact I would have overlooked had I not been mindful.

I know it sounds a little convoluted. Maybe this seems silly to some of y’all and that’s okay, but it’s a real game changer for me. I experience difficulty in regulating my emotions, in not going to extremes, in not making the leap from thought/feelings to fact. This impacts how I respond to myself, people, and situations.

Learning to regulate our emotions can be difficult. Accepting how we feel can as well. I think when we learn to center ourselves, we’re able to take a moment to accept what we’re thinking and feeling. We may need to distract ourselves for a little while and come back to whatever is happening later. IF that’s an option. When we’re able, we can take a look at what’s really behind what we’re feeling and thinking. If stepping away isn’t an option, we can at least recognize that a thought is just a thought and a feeling is simply a feeling.

Mindfulness is a skill we have to practice. This song is such an affirmation. And that little-Little? She’s pretty freakin’ great for sharing it with me when she did. Peace, B.

{Just click on the picture above to hear the song and watch the video!} 

Take a moment to think of just
Flexibility, love and trust

Take a moment to think of just
Flexibility, love and trust

Here comes a thought
That might alarm you

What someone said
And how it harmed you

Something you did
That failed to be charming

Things that you said are
Suddenly swarming, and oh

You’re losing sight
You’re losing touch

All these little things seem
To matter so much

That they confuse you
That I might lose you

Take a moment, remind yourself to
Take a moment and find yourself

Take a moment to ask yourself if
This is how we fall apart?

But it’s not (x5)
It’s okay (x5)

You’ve got nothing,
Got nothing, (x3)

Got nothing to fear
I’m here (x3)

Here comes a thought
That might alarm me

What someone said
And how it harmed me

Something I did
That failed to be charming

Things that I said are
Suddenly swarming, and oh

I’m losing sight
I’m losing touch

All this little things seem
To matter so much

That they confuse me
That I might lose me

Take a moment, remind yourself
To take a moment and find yourself

Take a moment and ask yourself if
This is how we fall apart?

But it’s not (x5)
It’s okay (x5)

I’ve got nothing
Got nothing, (x3)
Got nothing to fear

I’m here (x3)

And it was just a thought
Just a thought (x4)

It’s okay (x5)

We can watch (x3)
We can watch them go by
From here (x3)

Take a moment to think of just
Flexibility, love and trust

Take a moment to think of just
Flexibility, love and trust


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Posted September 21, 2016 by Beth in category "Mental Health

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